by Danielle Miller|February 11, 2018|To Wives
My husband came in the door that Friday with a spring in his step—his face was glowing, and a smile was spread from ear to ear.
Why you ask?
Why it was date night and he and I were cutting loose later that evening as Grandma watched the kids.
We didn’t have an agenda, and my husband smiled when I walked out of the bedroom later that evening wearing his favorite pair of jeans.
“Have fun, you two,” my mom called from the other room beneath two toddlers who were climbing on her.
We managed to sneak out the door without being noticed, but then my husband had to run back in anyway to get my id because we were. Planning on having a drink!
1st reason to date your spouse: It is something to look forward to.
Lets be honest.
At the end of a long week of nothing but diapers and laundry, date night is a refreshing thing to look forward to.
Oftentimes the mental well-being of our minds is at stake and we are in desperate need of some adult interaction.
Date night does that for you.
It is something to look forward to.
2nd reason to date your spouse: It’s time away from the kids together
The most obvious reason to get away for date night is the chance to get away from the kids.
As a stay-at-home mother of three littles, the thing I need sometimes the most is to get away and recharge.
Date night is a time when I can shut down from being mommy for an hour or two, and reboot.
Not only does it do the most obvious thing, which is strengthen my husband and I’s marriage, but it makes me a better mother.
3rd reason to date your spouse: You continue to learn about your spouse
After we dated our spouse (then boyfriend/girlfriend), and got married, chances are pretty good we stopped learning about our spouse.
Date night is a night when I can ask my husband, without interruption, how his week was. I can rekindle our dreams, and learn along the way, more about him.
4th reason to date your spouse: It models your priorities to your children
There’s no way of getting into the minds of our little ones, but if we could, I would bet they know they are at the top of our list of priorities.
Don’t tell me how I think I know that, but kids have a knack for picking up on things like that.
The baby cries—she gets fed.
My son poops his pants—he gets changed.
It’s cause and effect so it’s natural that they are at the top of our list of priorities.
Dating our spouse lets our children know that our marriage is at the top of that list.
It tells them that we make each other a priority.
5th reason to date your spouse: Tells one another that he/she is important
Oftentimes between my husband working a full-time job and me holding the fort down while he’s gone and caring four our children 100% of the time, my husband and I can fail at telling each other how important we are to each other.
If at no other time, date night is a night when we can slow down, put aside our title of mom and dad, and be who we are to each other—husband and wife.
As husband and wife, we can reflect on how much we love each other and show, just by being with each other, how important we are to one another.
6th reason to date your spouse: keeps the spark alive
I’m not saying my husband and I don’t have intimacy throughout the week, and I’m not saying we do.
Either way, date-night is a night when we can rekindle that intimacy with each other, sexual or nonsexual, and be what each other needs to one another.
The reasons to date your spouse are countless, and I would guess that you agree with each one that I mentioned above. But if you’re a mother of little ones, let me anticipate the next thing you’re thinking…
“How do I spend time with husband when I have kids to care for?”
And I don’t disagree with you. I know many couples who don’t have a mother living close to babysit, and I know how expensive a babysitter can get.
Maybe you’re exhausted just thinking about going out on a date on Friday night.
I get that too. At the end of the week I’m pooped to say the least.
Which is why I’ve got you covered!